I am simply a wife

There is a certain level of comfort, anxiety and vulnerability that comes with being in a wedding that those who have been in one understand. I once stood on the other side of the ceremony, wearing a bowtie and ready to accept the title of “groom”. This is different, in…

A letter from Daughter to Family

Grieving, is what has been to describe to me by you, my brother, my sister, friends; People that I have spent the majority of my life around. I have been told to understand that any sort of misgendering, dead naming and mental breakdowns caused by the two does not come…

My identity is not in the hands of others, not to invalidate and not to validate. How someone feels about my identity as a woman means nothing to me and it shouldn’t mean anything

There is a term that has been going around catching steam, this term is made to describe the feelings of heterosexual women whose partners transitioned. This term is described as a woman who feels that their “male” partner has died and is not the “man” that she married. This term has been named, Trans Widow. Yes, you read this correctly.

Transitioning is not a new phenomenon, It has occurred throughout time and will always happen. Sometimes this happens during the teenage years, sometimes this happens in early adult years before they reach the point of meeting someone and settling down. It is common however for trans people to discover their…

Our pride is not for the CisHet ran and backed companies to make money off of, Our pride is for us and it is up to us to take it back.

I came out at a time when the bodies of Black Trans Women were being brutalized, murdered, and found at record numbers. Safety was not something that was on the table for me. I watched as articles and legislation rooted in Anti Trans stances be introduced and promoted in ways…

The bodies pile up and the hate does not go away, I see that this fight is ours and is one that we will win

It was two weeks ago when I was messaged on Instagram by someone who was unhappy with me continuously focusing on Trans violence. It was two weeks ago that I was told that these horrors continue to happen because I choose to highlight them. I never understood the act of…

Takoda Leighton-Patterson

She/Her• Wife • Author of “Nothing Really Happens” • Podcast Host • Multifaceted Artist • Polyamorous Cool Girl™️ : Reading Goal 18/24📚

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